Why are we different?
How do we differ from other divorce mediators?
Get Divorce Solutions is unique in its gender balanced model of mediation. We believe that a male/female co-mediation team is more effective than a single mediator. To be effective there must be a level of trust by each client that the mediators are fair and impartial. We have found that our male-female co-mediation team serves to ease the anxiety of clients who may feel threatened by a ‘perceived’ bias by a mediator of the opposite sex. Clients going through the divorce process often feel that a same sex mediator is someone who can acknowledge and identify with his/her situation and be empathic. Our job is to enable each of you to feel comfortable in expressing your needs and interests. Our experience has shown that impasses are better overcome with a male/female mediation team.
How does co-mediation work?
Separation and divorce are among the most painful and disruptive events that an individual and family can experience. The problems are both financial and emotional, deeply touching all members of the family. We help couples separate their spousal role, which is ending, from their parental role, which is continuing. Couples learn to evaluate their present financial condition and provide for their future financial needs. With our help, agreements can be reached to handle both immediate and long range concerns. We will focus on the relevant issues and help identify possible options. Both of you will actively participate in the negotiations leading to reasonable solutions and a mutually satisfactory agreement that considers the needs of all family members. There is no winner or loser- only an acceptable settlement. The mediator is not an advocate for either party and does not make any decisions for you.. Instead, we help you explore all options and their consequences. We work to ensure that neither party gives away too much, nor dominates the other. Even though one party is more powerful or a better negotiator, the mediators helps to balance the power.
What are some benefits of co-mediation over divorce Litigation?
- Confidentiality - It avoids public disclosure of financial and personal matters. Even if the mediation is not successful and you end up going to court, what transpires in mediation may never be disclosed in court
- It takes less time, so you can move ahead with your life
- It costs less – the money you save by not litigating remains with you
- It allows you to control the decisions that affect your life
- It benefits children and yourselves by reducing conflict
- It promotes communication and cooperation
- There are no Court time limits or other time constraints, rather you proceed at your pace
- You focus on your needs and the best interests of you and your children, and craft a solution that is right for you
- You are more likely to comply with the terms of your agreement since you yourselves drafted it
- You can structure your divorce agreement in a non-standard way,or in a way that may deviate from the black letter of the law
- You have options that are not provided in litigation